I was a late bloomer when it came to , only masturbating for the first time at the age of 24. Since then, I’ve more than made up for missed opportunities, shifting my mindset to view masturbation not as a shameful secret but as a basic need in many people’s lives. But as I embarked on my discovery, I struggled to find resources that could point me in the right direction. (Surprisingly, there is no wikiHow for getting off.) Eventually, I ploughed ahead on my own, spending hours exploring my body to find out what did and didn’t feel fantastic. Toys, my hands and shower heads provided different sensations but building the confidence to start experimenting with self-pleasure took quite a bit of time. Knowing where to begin doesn’t come naturally to all of us.

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